When you love someone with mental illness, it is easy for you to get frustrated because you have a very different view of the world than them. Let’s say someone you love has depression. No matter how many times you tell them otherwise, they will never believe that they’re beautiful, useful, worth something, not guilty for things over which they had no control, and overall just not a bad person.
So you may say to yourself, “They’re just fishing for more compliments. I’m so tired of constantly reassuring them if they just don’t believe it.” It’s not that the person doesn’t believe it, it’s that they can’t believe it. So please, if you love someone with mental illness, push through the frustration. Because you love that person for a reason, so don’t give up on them. Love them through it and never stop showing them that they can find support in you.
Mental illness is awful, living it and loving someone with it are both hard and I’ve done both. It isn’t easy, it takes patience and genuine love and dedication. The only thing you can really do for someone you love who is suffering their own demons is to be there for them. Hug them and hold them tell them you’re there for them.
Maybe you’ll never understand what they go through but you can always be there for them while they battle it out. If you love them and they do want to get better then do your best to show them they have someone who cares and isn’t going anywhere because having that is the best thing you can have.
Feeling misunderstood and abandoned is the worst thing someone can feel when they are already stuck in their heads battling themselves every day.
just love them